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Let the Art do the Talking

Hello followers!

This week blog is going to be about African Art! I was blessed to grow up around a lot of artists. Despite having lived the majority of my lifetime in refugee camps, whenever we would settle into a new home aka refugee camp, people would continue living their life as if they were still in their own homes. That meant farmers would find new land to grow crops and artists would find a workshop to develop and bless others with their art. A couple of my friend’s dads were artists that made masks and other items and I had the privilege of working for them to sandpaper some of the artwork and paint them. All the art told its own story. From animal artwork to nativities, they did it all! A friend of mine @Nshimmy Charles (check out his Facebook for more of his art); makes incredible beautiful African artwork in my opinion! I love how his art just shows so much African culture! For instance in picture #12, you can see a woman carrying a baby on her back and carrying a bucket of water on her head at the same time and people milking a cow while sitting outside their homes, which is a very popular common custom in a lot of African culture. I own a couple pieces of art and love seeing them in my own home! Picture #5, I bought this item (not sure if it’s name is English), this item is called “igisabo” in my language, it’s a popular item used to keep milk or alcohol in it, is is also used during dowry celebrations in a lot of African culture like Rwandan culture, where a woman brings something for her in-laws to drink. I bought this item from World Market, I happened to be walking around the store and found it and told my husband I had to buy it because I had not seen one since I left Africa! Check out the art work below and let me know what you think!

  1. Made in Kenya by Rwandan artist

Till Next time,

Eddy

Finding the right life partner

How do you know he or she is the one?

Here are 6 lessons I have learned from my parents/grandparents/in-laws /aunts-uncles about finding the perfect life partner:

1. A life partner is someone who believes in your dreams even if they do not make sense to him or her. They believe in your goals/dreams because all they want to do is support you. So if your partner is the reason why you haven’t worked on your goals or dreams it’s time to have a chat and figure a way to support each other.

2. Don’t be with a person in hopes that he or she is going to change or that you are going to change them. If you are in dating someone that is mean to you or doesn’t treat you right; the reality is that marriage is not going to change that person, he or she is more likely going to treat you the same way, so the best thing you can do for you is leave that person now to avoid future regrets. If your partner is abusing you in any way (physical/sexual/emotional), you need to seek help and leave the toxic relationship. If the partner doesn’t let you leave the house, ask to go to an emergency room and ask to go to the bathroom and let staff know and they can help you get the resources you need. The reality is the abuse will never stop and you might end up losing your life so you need to find ways to get out.

3. Marriage is partnership. I repeat partnership, you both work together as a team, support each other and guide each other, treat each other with love and respect.

4. Marriage isn’t easy, there will be good and bad times. But with good ear and understanding and guidance from people that love you, you can overcome anything and everything. You just have to be willing to put work into it.

5. Treat your partner with respect, be kind to one another, seek guidance from influential people in your lives, if you don’t have any seek guidance from church/ elders/counseling. Support each other, uplift each other. Put your spouse first, not your kids, not your job, or your family.

6. Always say sorry when you are wrong, always tell your spouse you love them every chance you can, dedicate time for them for just the two of you, with love and support for each other, you can conquer anything and everything!

7. There is nothing like a perfect partner, you have to get to know someone first before you figure out if they are perfect for you! So don’t judge a book by its cover, because you never what you might miss on by judging someone from a far.

8. How did you know you found the one? Comment below

Things I didn’t learn in Nursing School

I didn’t learn this in nursing school: I’m about to have a meltdown but I know I shoudn’t….

I remember taking care of my first patient who had just received some bad news, this patient had only a week or so to live. I remember sitting outside the door and just trying so hard not to cry. This patient was so young and wasn’t even retired yet. This could have been my parent laying there. I tried to remember what I learned in nursing school about caring for patients in their last days and all I could remember was the five stages of grief. Do I pretent I didn’t hear the news and just walk in and do my job (assess, give meds, etc) then leave? Remember this was my FIRST patient ever to receive this bad news, I had no idea how I was going to react, but I knew I was a mess inside and had a job to do. The doctor happened to open the door and there I was standing right there, I quickly wiped the tears away, cleared my throat and walked in. My patient welcomed me with a smile (always did) and I could not believe they still had a smile after the devastating news. I decided to get out of my comfort zone and told them I just overhead his news and I was so sorry for all they were going through. They smiled again and nodded their face. I asked if there was something I could do in that moment, they said they wanted to be with their family but understood I had to do my job which required family to wait in the waiting room while I hang meds, etc. I decided just to stop what I was doing and have the family come back and told them to call me when they were done then I would hang the meds. I knew there was a chance of me getting in trouble for not getting the doctors finished at the scheduled time but I was ok with the punishment but if I was told I only have a few days to live, I would want my family by my side. That was almost three years ago and I still remember that day like it was yesterday, I still struggle with patients getting bad news because I wanted to go into medical field to help people get better, take care of them and send them home. But unfortunately that is the reality we live in. When I switched my career from inpatient to emergency, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I found myself going from drinking one glass of wine every once in a while to three glasses a week or daily, and I have only been in the ER less than a year, so imagine for people that have been here for a while and are using alcohol to cope with the stress that comes with the job. That is why it is so important to find something to help with stresss relief, if its working out, reading ,you need to find something before you ruin your life or become an alcoholic. Most importantly, we as nurses need to be kind and welcoming to new nurses, especially the ones right out of nursing school, you were in their shoes at some point, lets be honest you learned what you know because someone took their time and patience and taught you how to. Do not be the nurse criticizing someone because they do not how to do things, be the nurse teaching that person how to be good at whatever skills they are lacking. Keep an eye on your coworkers that might be struggling with dealing with work stress or others factors, and help them seek appropriate care. Together when can make healthcare a better place but taking care of us first. Last but not least, be thankful for the health you have, be thankful you do not have a chronic illness like diabetes or high blood pressure for example because these two illnesses are just a disaster waiting to happen if not appropriately managed. Be thankful you and your loved one are not the ones getting the bad news, being thankful more often will make you realize how blessed you and be more appreciative of what you have and keep you humbled.

Till next time,

Nurse Eddy

TRADITIONAL AFRICAN WEDDING SERIES:RWANDA

African traditional wedding series: Rwanda

Welcome to the African traditional wedding series. This week we are going to learn more about the Rwandan traditional wedding. The traditional wedding is meant to be the time the family of the bride and the groom meet each other as well ask permission to get married and the groom pays dowry to the bride’s family. It’s a very colorful festivity to attend. The future bride dresses up in a very colorful outfit along with a group of friends. The friends carry gifts with them to give to the future groom. The bride also carries milk in a special traditional jar, and gives it to the groom to drink. The groom pays dowry in a form of either money, cow or farming products. The acceptance of the dowry also means the bride’s family is ok with their daughter getting married which happens in a civil/church ceremony just as a typical American wedding. The traditional ceremony also includes eating traditional food as well as well as famous Rwandan tradition dancers! Check out some pictures below

Famous Rwandan dancers aka intore❤️
Famous Rwandan Dance tradition
Bride in middle in all blue and her tribe

The cake though😮 @mungeli
@mungeli and her tribe
The groom and his bride❤️ @mungeli
@mungeli future hubby ready for the day
@mungeli future groom smiling and ready
Groom and his tribe

Be thankful and enjoy life to the fullest today

Life can be hectic, life can throw so many obstacles your way, but one thing I have learned being an emergency nurse and a former refugee is life is too short and the most important reason I have learned about life is that you absolutely have no idea what your future holds. Therefore, one should live everyday to the fullest. Growing up as an African refugee, I absolutely had nothing, I grew up not having a bed to sleep on, no chairs to sit on and not knowing if I was going to have at least one meal a day. I grew up mostly eating once a day and to this day I struggle with eating three meals a day because I got so used to eating once or nothing a day. I was 100% sure I had no future. Back home, one has a guaranteed future if you have a college degree. I was 100% sure I would never make it to college because there is no way I could afford it and there was no scholarships offered due to the fact that I attended a refugee school that was not supported by the government of the state I lived in. When I was approaching high school graduation, I knew I only had one choice, to get married and stay home and raise a family. But I knew and was positive that is not what I wanted, but the reality was that I had no choice. So I continued to pray to God everyday and never lost hope that God works in mysterious ways. After graduating high school, I was offered a once in a lifetime opportunity out of the blue by a refugee resettlement agency by the name Refugepoint. I was told there is a chance I can be resettled to the United States, but I was running out of time because I was almost 18, and it is so hard to be resettled once you are an adult. The odds of me being resettled was so against me because I only had a few months before turning 18, and resettlement cases take at least five years or more. Fast forward a few weeks before my 18th Birthday, a family in Michigan gets a call about this refugee girl who desperately needs a home asap. My now parents prayed about it and they said yes, and they agreed to take me in. When I was told I was coming to the United States, at first I though it was a joke, I couldn’t believe the news I was hearing. I remember someone from Refugepoint office showing me a map of the world and pointing to Michigan and saying “this is where you are going to go”, I remember being like “oh I remember learning in USA geography about Lake Michigan, I wonder if I will live near that big lake”. Three days before I turned 18, I stepped my feet on United State soil and settled in my new home in Grand Haven, Michigan! And guess what’s so popular about Grand Haven? The beach right on Lake Michigan! Fast forward talmost 10 years since I arrived in the United States, I am now hold two college degrees, happily married to my wonderful husband Adam and have a privilege of working at one of the busiest level one trauma emergency rooms in the country as a registered nurse. After 22 years of being a refugee, I finally became a citizen of United States. I finally belonged to a country😊. So what’s the point of me sharing this with you? It doesn’t matter what you are going through right now, don’t ever give up on your dreams even if they don’t make sense, as a kid I dreamed of working in the hospital but knew there was no way I would ever afford to go to college. But fast forward to 20 years later, that dream became a reality. For refugees all over the world, keep praying, keep hanging on, God works in mysterious ways and you have no idea what the future holds for you! As a nurse I see people coming into the ER and getting the worst news of their lives, a lot of them do not even make it, so live your daily life to the fullest. Learn how to be thankful, be thankful that you woke up this morning, be thankful that you are not sick today, be thankful that you have food on your table, be thankful that you have a roof over your head, be thankful and you will realize that you are blessed beyond words. And if you are blessed,then look for ways to bless others. Are you the answer for someone’s prayers? My foster parents were the answer for my prayers. Are you a perfect match for someone who desperately needs an organ/bone marrow? Are you the role model one child desperately needs to turn their life around and have hope for a better future?You never know what you can be unless you try. My parents did not know they would change my life forever until they said yes! And never ever lose hope, because you have no idea what tomorrow holds for you and I am a prime example that you definitely do not know what the future holds. Hang in there❤️

sincerely;

Edith aka Eddy

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Collabo#2

Hello everyone!

I hope everyone had a fantastic week! This week I am excited to share with everyone another collaboration I did with an Etsy shop called DashikiMe. The shop is owned by Ama Asamoah. The shop offered a wide range of clothing for both males and females. They also sell Greek letter scarves for graduation. I first found out about this shop about a year ago, there was this one dress I really wanted and my awesome grandma got it for me for Christmas last year! When the dress arrived it was too small😩. I contacted the shop owner Ama and she had me send her my measurements and she sent me a new fitted dress! She was so professional and love how she didn’t have me go through my grandma who had originally purchased the item to do all the returns. I asked Ama what she would like people to know about her shop and this is what she said “Most of my female assistants have been rescued from early childhood marriages. The money they get from making the clothes is what sustains them from falling into early childhood marriages”. How awesome is that? Most girls in Africa are at risk for getting married way too young but Ama has found a way to give some of these girls a job so they can support themselves and not have to worry about getting married young! I have provided a link below for the Etsy shop and when you click it, it will automatically give you a 10% off coupon, coupon will be applied at checkout! If you have any issues ordering reach out to me and I will reach out to the shop owner! Check out the pics of me with this two piece outfit!

https://www.etsy.com/shop/DashikiMe?coupon=EDDYSFASHION2

Have a great weekend everyone,

Eddy❤️

https://www.etsy.com/shop/DashikiMe?

Collabo #1

Hi everyone! Am excited for this week blog, as I debut my first collaboration with a clothing store known as “HERitage Apparel! Check out the info below about the shop from the owner and check out the pictures of me wearing this beautiful dress and matching earrings from this shop! Belt is not included!

“HERitage Apparel was launched this summer with the goal of bringing affordable, contemporary African-inspired clothing, jewelry, and decor to a larger audience. The company is owned and run by Dee and E., two life long friends and creatives.

Dee is an educator who lives in Ghana, Africa. She curates the rich and vibrant fabrics which are then made by E., a writer, who lives in Maryland.

The company’s offerings currently include skirts, dresses, tops, statement jewelry, headwraps, clutch purses, and throw pillows covers. A children’s line is expected to debut fall 2018.

What sets HERitage Apparel apart from similar companies is their contemporary fabrics, affordable prices, and the fact that they offer free U.S. shipping on every single purchase. In addition, each item is custom made in the USA for each specific customer…HERitage Apparel does not mass produce items and never makes more than 10 of a particular products to maintain exclusivity.

Most orders are shipped out within 10 business days. To shop HERitage Apparel, visit

https://www.etsy.com/shop/HeritageApparelUSA and follow HERitage Apparel on Instagram at http://www.instagram.com/heritage.apparel.usa

I love how this shop is owned by two females who dedicate their time and talents to produce beautiful items! When I was checking out their Etsy store, trust me I wanted to buy everything! It’s love promoting small businesses and so glad we worked together! Check out the pictures of me below and let me know what you think!

Till next time,

Eddy